Small Things Matter In Keeping Love Alive

“‘Tis not love’s going hurts my days, But that it went in little ways.” – Edna St. Vincent Millay

That is the story of love in many relationships. Love begins to leak from a tiny crack that grows bigger little by little, and before one knows it, the crack has become a big pothole that can swallow a car when the storms of this world come.

What am I trying to say? Small gestures of affection and appreciation can make a big difference in a romantic relationship.

If your partner likes open displays of affection, hold their hands, give them a hug, or say “I love you,” or call them ‘honey’.

These simple actions can help your partner feel valued and loved. It can bring back that romantic spark you saw in them at the beginning of the relationship, before they started feeling comfortable spoiling the air around you. LoL.

But as relationship expert Dale Carnegie advised in his book How To Win Friends And Influence People, don’t start too strong too suddenly, or they’ll become suspicious.

But I hear someone ask, “what if the partner is not the type that likes open displays of affection?” And I reply thus, “one can also show practical affection by expressing appreciation to their partner for even the little things they’ve done for them.” This can be as simple as saying “thank you” to her for making dinner or washing those dirty clothes. Saying thank you shows that you appreciate the little they have done.

And as a member of Igbo Defender Facebook Group Okoro Faith Oluchi says, ‘E too dike maka nke o mere, o nwe Ike imekwasi ozo,’ meaning if you praise someone for the good they have done, you have encouraged them to do more.

Nya gazie.

By OzoIgboNdu1 of Igbo Defender

Digital marketer and Marketing analyst

162 comments

  29. Write a poem for them. It doesn’t need to be Shakespearean quality, even just a simple acrostic poem (where each line begins with a letter of their name, for example), would be a very cute way to show them you thought of them.

  42. Most decent couples share time with each other’s friends on a occasional basis, your partner asking about your friends or even initiates plans with your friends or family says a lot about how much they care about your happiness.

  44. Going for a walk in the park, on the beach, or even down your street is a good idea.
    You will appreciate the conversation and time you’re spending together with no distractions.

  47. When there’s a misunderstanding whether little or large, just apologize.

    It can be tough to admit you were wrong but it feels really good to know you are back on the same page.

  50. Give your partner a foot massage when both of you are relaxing on the couch. You can bring out some oils or even a body cream and run your hands over their feet as you both watch something on the screen.

  51. There’s no classic gesture than just telling your partner you love them, whether you say it regularly or not, you should still look at them in the eyes and say, “I love you.” Say it like you mean it without trying to be funny or sounding corny.

  52. Sit on your partner’s lap and behave like a mischievous minx when both of you are relaxing at home.

    Or if you’re the guy, don’t let your partner walk around the house for a few hours. Carry them around the house no matter where they want to go. It’s an underrated and funny act, but it still counts as a romantic gesture.

  61. I have learnt and chosen to appreciate my partner and people in general over the little things they do for me.
    Because Showing appreciation always goes a long way in our lives and little things
    also matters so it shouldn’t be taken for granted

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